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The Special Needs of Mothers

By Karen Schweiger

Some people compare the journey of life to that of a roller coaster. Personally, especially as the mother of a special needs child, I equate the experience to that of the ebb and flow of the ocean’s tides.

On the best of days, the tide gently washes over the sand, rhythmic and serene. It’s easy to relax and savor the warmth of the sun, let your heart dance with the laughter surrounding you, allowing it to nourish and replenish you, heart and soul.

There are days, though, when you know a storm is brewing, its arrival foretold with the restlessness of the tide, whitecaps alluding to rougher waters ahead. During these times, you can still enjoy the beauty and grace of the ocean, even delight in the excitement of the unknown and the feeling of accomplishment when you survive these precursors to the storm.

Then there are those times when you look out into the distance and cannot even discern the horizon, the line of which has disappeared among the darkest of storm clouds. You know in your very soul this will be no ordinary storm. Oh no. Mother Nature is about to unleash the Kraken and you, my dear, know that you’ll be lucky to survive the day, barely able to keep your head above the waves that will no doubt crash down upon you mercilessly.

Instinct might dictate that you turn and run, but you cannot ... you’re a mother. We don’t run. We don’t hide. We batten down the hatches and prepare to ride out the storm, knowing we’re going to be slammed against the rocks, our very souls possibly shredded by the jagged edges of the specter of mental and/or physical illnesses, hoping there’s enough left of us afterwards to allow us to pull ourselves together, muster the strength to rebuild and prepare for the next storm. There’s always another storm. And so it goes.

During the most tumultuous years – the teen years – there were times I felt painfully alone and isolated; overwhelmed with the fear that we were in over our heads, praying we’d be rescued or perhaps simply wash up on gentler shores.

During a conversation with a now dear friend, I shared with her those feelings of isolation and loneliness. What I wouldn’t have given to have been seen ... to have had my voice heard ... to have felt as if I was not so alone … to know, too, that I mattered.

What a gift it would have been to have been held in a safe space, to have had the option to choose whether or not to let loose tears of frustration and secret fears, or to have had the choice to let myself get lost in the company of sympathetic being, being nurtured and savoring the connection that would have been a welcome balm to my battered soul.

When my friend echoed an acknowledgment of just how vital that would have been for her at a similar time, I had an epiphany. As a professional Cuddlist, I would be in a position to do just that—to offer understanding, compassion and sanctuary to those storm weary mothers and caregivers of special needs children and/or adults.

Of the many alternative care modalities one can pursue, touch therapy has proven to be a pioneering phenomenon. Even a gentle touch releases the hormone “oxytocin” – the feel-good hormone – which helps relieve stress, lessen anxiety, depression and creates a sense of happiness and well-being. Therapeutic cuddling combines the immersive comforts of physical touch with the benefits of a one-on-one mindful connection in a safe, judgment-free space.

My path toward this modality of healing began decades ago and has been influenced by many circumstances, but the remarkable journey of motherhood holds the most special place in my heart and intent.

Karen Schweiger, owner of In Your Arms, has over 25 years of experience in the customer care industry and is a certified, professional cuddlist. As a Mother’s Day gift  to all moms, Karen is offering a May Special of two hours of unadulterated connection and relaxation for $100. Gift certificates and in-home visits are available. 908-768-1800. [email protected]. CuddleInYourArms.com. See ad on page 12. 

Tick Talk

Spring officially sprung on March 21. We have turned our clocks ahead. We are looking forward to warm winds, sunny skies and the smell of fresh cut grass. The daffodils and tulips have recently bloomed and we are just starting with the yard work that comes with the warmer weather.  Sadly, another season has started ramping up.  Tick season.

•             The best form of protection is prevention. Educating oneself about tick activity and how our behaviors overlap with tick habitats is the first step.

•             According to the NJ DOH, in 2022 Hunterdon County led the state with a Lyme disease incidence rate of 426 cases per 100,000 people. The fact is ticks spend approximately 90% of their lives not on a host but aggressively searching for one, molting to their next stage or over-wintering. This is why a tick remediation program should be implemented on school grounds where NJ DOH deems high risk for tick exposure and subsequent attachment to human hosts.

•             Governor Murphy has signed a bill that mandates tick education in NJ public schools. See this for the details.  Tick education must now be incorporated into K-12 school curriculum. See link:

https://www.nj.gov/education/broadcasts/2023/sept/27/TicksandTick-BorneIllnessEducation.pdf

•             May is a great month to remind the public that tick activity is in full swing. In New Jersey, there are many tickborne diseases that affect residents, including Anaplasmosis, Babesiosis, Ehrlichiosis, Lyme disease, Powassan, and Spotted Fever Group Rickettsiosis.

•             For years, the focus has mainly been about protecting ourselves from Lyme disease. But other tick-borne diseases are on the rise in Central Jersey. An increase of incidence of Babesia and Anaplasma are sidelining people too. These two pathogens are scary because they effect our blood cells. Babesia affects the red blood cells and Anaplasma effects the white blood cells.

•             Ticks can be infected with more than one pathogen. When you contract Lyme it is possible to contract more than just that one disease. This is called a co-infection. It is super important to pay attention to your symptoms. See link.

https://twp.freehold.nj.us/480/Disease-Co-Infection

A good resource from the State:

https://www.nj.gov/health/cd/topics/tickborne.shtml

 

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