“I have learned that there is more power in a good strong hug than in a thousand meaningful words,” wrote American novelist Ann Hood, and her words ring true for many of us. When in the arms of a loved one, we share the heartbeat of the present moment. Spiritual traditions provide manifold forms of meditative practices, but embracing another human being might be the most enjoyable way to achieve a deep state of calm and mindfulness.

Hugs can mark beginnings, tethering two lives in committed union, or they can punctuate endings when we say goodbye. Whether we receive solace when we are sick or grieving, allowing someone to gather us in their safe embrace is strong medicine.

Science tells us that hugging tames our stress response, bolsters the immune system and helps children to better cope with life later in adulthood. Our arms are energetic extensions of the heart, and welcoming someone into a circle of security is the body’s act of prayer, engaging the emotions and soothing the soul. 

Despite all the good a hug might offer, past trauma or inhibition can prevent us from benefiting from this human need for touch. Asking someone, “May I give you a hug?” is a good place to begin, and so, too, making the decision to receive someone else’s affectionate gesture. For those without loved ones nearby, therapeutic massage, playing with a pet or clutching a favorite stuffed animal can kick off a similar cascade of feel-good chemicals when we are overwhelmed.

Hugging can be part of our daily spiritual wellness, an investment that goes beyond ourselves and into the world, one embrace at a time. Here are a few ideas to get the ripple effect going: 

• Hug your partner without sexual agenda and connect heart-to-heart.

• Hug your child during happy times, not only on challenging days.

• Ask for a hug; initiation is a sign of strength, not neediness.

• Hold a hug for at least 20 seconds.

 

Marlaina Donato is an author, visionary painter and composer. Connect at WildflowersAndWoodsmoke.com.

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